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    Is More Right For You?

    I get a lot of great questions.  So I thought it would be great to launch NakeiaTV with some of those great questions.

    This week’s episode of NakeiaTV will address the question:

    How do I know if more is right for me?

    That question came from Sara from New Jersey (my home state whoot hoot!!.)  She explained that she was grateful for her life and all that she has, but lately, felt like it's not enough.  She wants more. Can you relate?

    That doesn’t seem like a typical question.  Most people gladly accept more of everything---more money, more friends, more vacations, more promotions, and more and more.  But there are a few of us, especially those who haven’t been handed much in life, who struggle with desiring and accepting more because we don’t want to appear ungrateful for what we have.

    I will boldly state that more is always right---when you have earned it and want more not just for yourself, but also for those who are connected to you.  


    I answered Sara's question and offered this approach:

    • Give yourself permission to have more.
    • Identify good reasons you have earned more.
    • Do More.

    What does more look like for you? Do you feel you deserve it? Will you feel guilty when you get it?

    I want to know what you think. So, join the discussion in the comments below.

    I would love to answer your questions on the next episode of NakeiaTV.  Just shoot me an email and your question may be answered next. I shared the specific action steps I offered Sara in this week's Free Newletter.  So, sign up for the newsletter and join Sara by doing the steps necessary to expand your life!


    Until next time Loves...when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    Life IS all about YOU

    It took me years to accept the fact that my life’s purpose was to be of service to others in a way that would inspire, empower, and push them into a life of purpose.

    I wanted my purpose to be about M-E, me.  I know how that must sound.  But---when you grow up not having much, constantly being a source of support for everyone else, and seeing what you want in life, right before your eyes, but being held back from it by an invisible wall---you would want the ladder part of your life to be all about Y-O-U, you too.

    Some of you are relating right now and others of you are ready this and saying, huh?.

    I have shared this before but in case you missed it, I know now, for sure, that every uncontrollable, unfortunate, difficult, and virtually unbearable circumstance that I have EVER experience was for your benefit.  For every test and trial (like the old church mothers would say) that I have experienced victory in, you now have access to strategy (I have created and mastered) to experience victory in.

    My life is about me.  It’s about me pushing through difficult doors so that you can pass through them with ease.

    If you are struggling to commit to your life’s purpose or if you have not yet identified your purpose, here is your approach:

    Answer the call. Your current difficulty is due to that fact that you are probably fighting against purpose instead of walking with it. Settle in and find your flow. Everything will fall into place when you embrace what you have been created to do.  The action you will take toward this is to write a list of things you’ve always wanted to do.  If you can, go back to your earliest memory of having a strong desire to do something. On the back of that list write down the things you have been pushing to the back of your mind for some time now. Meditate on that list for a few days and see what really speaks to you.

    Stop being so “deep.” You know exactly what I mean by deep.  When I use the phrase answer the call, I am simply referring to the times your heart tries to reach you and you listen to your head instead.  I am not referring to the mountain top, or wilderness experience that some of you are waiting for.  You feel that tugging at your heart as you hit your daily commute, sit in front of the television, or sleep your weekends away. Explore those urges to try something new or connect to something that you use to do. Your first action step toward this is simple, find a working definition of the word purpose that connects with you most.  Write it down and post it all over your living space.  Your second action step will be to keep a little note book on hand, and every time you get inspired---write it down.  Keep a working list of things you want to do.

    Do Something. I will forever be indebted to my Do Something Method™. Clarity is found in intentional action.  As you begin to active seek and walk in your purpose, you will handle life with more and more ease.  The message behind the Do Something Method ™ is Doing Something Will Always Get You Further Than Doing Nothing. Your action here is to write down at least 3 things that you will DO each week---and do it.  This is how you get out of your head and into your reality.  Do at least 3 things that you haven’t done before, use to do, or always wanted to do.

    ***Bonus*** Do more of the things you love. Your purpose is attached to your passion.  If you do something effortlessly, with enthusiasm, and joy, that thing is probably related in some way to your purpose.  Do that thing often. Connect to the things you love by using those things to replace the things you don’t love. The action you will take for this last strategy should really shift you into a more purposeful life. Start with a list of things you love doing.  This list should take you a minute.  Some of the things you write may make you smile immediately.  Once you have a list, select 1 thing from your list to do every-single-day. Do. It. Love. It.

    I have answered my call and now I am walking in purpose.  You can too with this simple and effective Common Sense Approach.

    I want to here from you.  What is your purpose? Are you having trouble identifying it? How are you walking in it? What are your specific struggles? Answer those questions in the comment section below.


    Until next time Loves… when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    I've Been Where You Are...

    We’ve all been there---that place where nothing seems to be going as planned---the place where uncertainty, self-doubt, and the question, what’s the use lives.

    What now?

    That is probably what you are wondering---especially if you have tried everything you know, and nothing seems to work.

    You may be on the verge of something significant.  You have new ideas, huge dreams, and specific goals, but you do not have the tools needed to get those things out of your head and into your reality. So, what now?


    You may be feeling stuck, uninspired, and totally disconnected from your dreams.  There use to be a spark where uncertainty now lives, and your thinking “maybe it wasn’t meant to be.” So, what’s the use?

    If what now is your greatest question and what’s the use comes in at a strong second, here is your approach to finding clarity and focus:

    Take a deep breath. Sometimes the feelings of uncertainty, self-doubt, and hopelessness can cause you to panic.  The best medicine I have found for a panic attack is a deep breath in and a deep breath out.  I know that sounds all yogi-ish but it works in the moment. Deep breathes causes you to center yourself so that you can focus. Once you are focused, consider the fact that you are not alone.  Every person that has achieved any kind of significant success, including myself, has been where you are and they needed to make some major decisions so that they could experience some major changes---which brings me to my next point…

    Make a decision. The moment you feel that type of panic, is the moment you need to decide what to do about it.  By the time you feel what you are feeling now; things have come to a head.  There have been signs along the way that you have completely ignored or were too distracted to notice.  I am sure if you take a brief look back, the signs would hit you in the face! No worries…make the decision to do something about it.

    Try a new approach.  If what you have been doing so far was really working for you, you wouldn’t be where you are in life.  It’s time to do something different. Try a new approach that works!  A good place to start is with the opposite of what you have been doing. Also consider the new ideas that have been running through your head lately.  Until now, you have probably been afraid to try a new approach.  Set your fear aside, and do it! Try a new approach.  If you can’t think of one, I am certain that my proven---Common Sense Approach--- is just what you need.

    Become a groupie.  Find someone who is successful at what you want to achieve, and follow them around like a teenaged groupie.  You need a mentor.  Success is contagious. Being around people that are successfully living their lives will directly affect you if you get connected. Carve out your success by surrounding yourself with it.


    Stop panicing, make a decision, try a new approach, and find a mentor. These startegies seem simple---that's because they are.  Most often the simple answer is the best answer.


    Until next time Loves...when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!