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    song creator, inspirational writer/speaker, good food cooker, lipstick wearer… a girl from the projects who decided NOT to settle. I'm a believer- in God, in dreams, in love, and in hustle with heart. find out more about me here.















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    Lies You Tell Yourself

    Let’s be honest. You lie to yourself all the time---specifically about why you don’t have the life you really want.

    I know that’s a very strong statement, but since I want you to be FREE to live the life you want and deserve, I thought it be best if I told you the TRUTH.

    When you say the following, you are lying to yourself:

    I can’t_______________.

    ____________ is the reason I don’t have what I want.

    I don’t have time to _______________.

    It’s too late for me to ______________________.

    I have told every one of those lies to myself at one point, or a few others, in my life.  I was especially fond of the I can’t lie. 

    I can’t move forward.   I can’t forgive.  I can’t afford it.  I can’t wait.  I can’t put myself out there.  I can’t figure it out.  I can’t … I can’t … I CAN’T!!

    Lies. Lies. LIES!!  I could have.  I just chose not to.

    I can’t is a lie.  I won’t is the truth.

    Someone/something is the reason I don’t have what I want.  I blame others for my own choice is the truth.

    I don’t have time is a lie.  I waste time is the truth.

    It’s too late for me is a lie.  I have given up is the truth.

    If you are ready to be free to live the life you want, combat those lies with this approach:

    You can.  That is what you must tell yourself when you are hit with the I can’t lie.  You absolutely can.  So stop saying you can’t and be honest about the fact that you chose not to---and then choose to.  You owe it to yourself to do what need to do so that you can enjoy the things you want.

    Own it.  Take 100% responsibility for what happens in your life.  You may not be able to control everything that happens to you, but you can control how you prepare for it and how you react to it.  Own your choices in life.  If you can’t live with the choices you have already made, make new choices that you can live with.

    Make time.  This is by far the most common lie.  Every day you are given the gift of 24hours--- how you appreciate that gift will make a huge difference in your life.  Be more responsible with your time.  When you want something, you make it happen.  When you don’t you make excuses.

    Don’t give up.  If you are alive today, you have another chance to get it right.  It is not too late.  Later is better than never!

    You owe yourself the truth. Don’t be deceived by the excuses that are holding you back. 

    The truth is you are more than capable of doing what is necessary to create the life you want.  You have gifts and specific skills that will usher opportunity into your life.  All you really need to do is combat the lies you tell yourself with truth and intentional action.

    **Bonus** I have designed specific exercises that will help you combat those lies.  For more information, email me details about the lie that has been holding you back at

    Join the discussion! What lie have you been telling yourself?  How will you combat it?


    Until next time Loves… when in doubt, simply do what makes since!


    Matters of the Heart

    Last month I had to speak at a women's conference in New Jersey.  Due to circumstances beyond my control, I had to leave my home, in Atlanta, in a mad dash and head up to New Jersey 4 days early. That mad dash cost me my handwritten notes for my speech.  I left them at home in my studio (where I often record myself practicing a speech.)

    Of course I had an idea of what I wanted to say, but the little details that I practiced back at home, had not yet been committed to memory.  I was preoccupied during the days leading up to the conference, so I was unable to sit and prepare a new speech.  So, I did what I do best and spoke completely from my heart.

    I can’t tell you most of what I said that day, because I honestly can’t remember.  I tell you that out of all of the women that came up to me after the conference, two women in particular said something to me that I will always remember.  They said--- thanks for sharing your heart.

    Most of us prepare for the BIG THINGS in life.  We prepare for marriage, children, promotions, relocations, presentations, and all kinds of life occurrences.  I know for sure that I have. Some times things work out totally as planned.  Other times, we are forced into circumstances that are beyond our control.  When we are finished preparing, what will matter most is if we have been thoughtful enough to share our hearts.

    I am guilty of getting caught up in the hype of fancy words and riveting stories.  My intentions are pure I promise.  I want to make the biggest impact and evoke real change in the lives of those I speak to.

    What I learned last month, is that people don’t care how you solve their problems, stimulate their dreams, or inspire them to action, they just care that you care enough to do what you do---from the heart.

    I felt that lesson again this weekend, as I planned this adventure filled weekend for my family.  At the end of every evening, all that my daughter wanted me to do was sit with her as she styled her dolly’s hair.

    Your approach for today is as simple as it gets:

    Remember to share your heart. Continue to prepare and plan to give life your best.  But remember that you will only be at your best when you include the matters of your heart. Look for opportunities to connect in the most authentic way with the people you connect to today.


    Join the discussion!  Have you had the opportunity to share your heart lately?  How did others respond to you sharing? Where, specifically, will you look for an opportunity to share?


    Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    Dream the Impossible {[Revisited]}

    I am a big dreamer---I always have been.  

    In response to my big dreams, my grandmom would always say, I hope God allows me to see you get everything you want in life.  I like to joke with my grandmom every year by telling her she needs to give me a gift for her birthday--- she is still alive because I still have dreams waiting in the wings to come true.

    Everyday I am encouraging someone to dream big---especially those who dream the impossible.  My favorite example of a big dreamer is the story of a migrant worker turned astronaut. 

    Jose Hernandez has a very inspiring story.

    Although he was born in America, he spent his childhood working half of the year in his parent’s native country, Mexico, and the other half working in America. He didn’t even learn to speak English until he was 12 years old. Although he came from a family of field workers, he was compelled to pursue higher education. He was later inspired to challenge himself after hearing the story of America’s first Latin American astronaut, Franklin Chang-Diaz. He heard stories of Franklin’s life and realized they had many things in common. It was at that moment that his journey to NASA began. Hernandez said in an interview …Hey, if Franklin can do it, why can’t I do it? 

    After 12 years of applying, and many strides in the field of engineering, Jose Hernandez was accepted into NASA at the age of 41. Several years later, he became a mission specialist aboard the STS-128. He completed that 14 day journey in September 11, 2009. In another interview Hernandez said I just want people to know that it is ok to dream the impossible.

    I agree with Hernandez. It is ok for you to dream that you can do, be, and experience the things that are felt to be incapable of being done, attained or fulfilled.

    Many people get a glimpse of their big dream, but then close their mind to it because it seems impossible.  If you would have spoken to Jose Hernandez one hot, summer day, while he was hard at work in a field in Mexico, and asked him if he wanted to be an astronaut he would have probably looked at you crazyespecially if you were speaking to him in English. Given his circumstances at the time, that would have seemed impossible.  

    Fortunately for Hernandez, someone else dreamed an impossible dream before him, and Hernandez was smart enough to borrow that dream until he grew enough faith to create his own impossible dream. Once he challenged himself to do what little boys and girls only dream of doing, the sky was no longer the limit for him! He took that spirit of hard work into the classroom and then to NASA and turned his dream into his reality!

    If you are having a difficult time dreaming big because you can't see past your current circumstances, or feel as if your dream is impossible---here is your approach:

    Hijack someone else's dream until you can grow enough faith to dream for yourself.  Here's what I mean. There are women and men that are doing big things in the world.  There are astronauts, lawyers, doctors, teachers, artists, bakers, and full-time moms that are significantly impacting their communities. Just pick up a newspaper, read a blog, or turn on the television.  Big dreamers are every where!  Pull inspiration from them.  Find someone that is successful at your dream and walk a mile in their shoes.  If they can do it, then by all means So. Can. You.  Once a dream has been achieved, it is no longer impossible.

    Get inspired again! Challenge yourself! Dream the impossible…


    Until next time Loves...when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!