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    The Best Way To End The War (Within)

    There seems to be a constant battle between the life you have and the life you want.

    Or at least it feels like a battle sometimes.  You wake up, walk out of the bed, the questions start--- and the war begins. 

    Are you grateful for your life or do you wish that it was over?

    Do you work out or skip out?

    Do you pray and meditate or do you complain?

    Do you love your job, or do you hate it?

    Will you play with the kids, or play on the computer?

    Will you read a book or watch TV? 

    Will you do something to change your life, or will you wait for something ---or someone to come along and change it for you?

    The life you have is sitting back waiting for you to do what you have always done and the life you want is overwhelmed with anticipation---just waiting for you to finally make the right choice.

    When you woke up this morning, who won? What action did you take? Which life did you choose?

    Here is a better question. What ACTion will you take---today---that will change the course of your life and help you win the battle?

    Today’s approach…

    Choose the life you want. You deserve it.


    Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    An Approach For Slow Bloomers

    After picking my daughter up from school and just before pulling into my garage, I drove past the flowers in front of my house and complained almost everyday.

    In spite of the fact that it was a wonderful summer here in Atlanta, our roses just wouldn’t bloom.  So, I complained.  Everyday, as I pulled into my garage, I complained to my daughter about our lack of roses. Then, one day as I was passing by, I glanced over and saw this:

    It was one lone beautiful pink rose in full bloom.  I screeched for my daughter to come over to see the rose, and with this weird look on her face, she said mom that flower has been there the whole time---it’s just finally big and pretty today.  I said no it hasn’t. And---of course she asserted that it had, in fact, been there the whole time.

    What a lesson.  I was so focused on what was lacking that I failed to see the one thing that was slowly blooming everyday.

    Such is life.  As we strive to achieve our greatest ambitions, the little things that we take for granted everyday, are in fact slowly striving to be great on our behalf. The stuff we overlook and pass by is just as important as the things we deem to be great. It is those things---those little things--- that support us while we are preparing for our greatest desires.    

    If you find yourself so focused on what you are lacking that you overlook the things that are slowly blooming in your life, here is your approach:

    Simply stop and smell the rosesAll is not loss.  There is beauty slowly blooming---but you can’t see it if you are focused on what you don’t have.

    Stay in gratitude. Be thankful for what is working and growing in your life right now.

    Check in daily. Everyone is obsessed with the future. When you are goal driven it is easy to get so focused on what’s ahead, that you breeze past the day-to-day. Checking in with what is going on in your life everyday will keep things in perspective and assist you in embracing the process.


    What have you been overlooking? How will you apply this approach? Join the discussion the comments below. Are you a slow bloomer? What have you done to embrace the process?


    Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    One Winter Trend You Shouldn't Follow

    As summer comes to an end, I joyfully welcome fall.  Although I am not ready to part with my hot pink summer dresses, I am excited about the return of my blazers, scarves, hats, and my favorite pair of black boots.

    Because I live in the south, there will be a delay in the entrance of cooler weather. So until it arrives, I’ll enjoy the west coast trend of mixing winter boots with summer dresses.


    To all of my male readers, follow me for a minute---I’m going somewhere with this.

    There is another trend that often sneaks its way in with fall.  Statics show, that there is a dramatic increase in reports of depression during the winter months.  As people retreat from their beach vacations, many find themselves feeling less social and less productive.  November and December houses the most significant holidays of the year, and many people find it hard to face those holidays after the loss of loved ones.

    As the sun grows dimmer and the day seems longer, you may feel your mood slowly changing. That is one trend you shouldn't follow.

    If you find it difficult to thrive as the season changes, here is your approach:

    Do not retreat. There are just as many opportunities to be social in the winter as there are in the summer. Create a winter social calendar and remain as active as possible. Being around others who are thriving will help you blossom---even in the winter.

    Set a winter goal.  Creating a specific intention for the winter will keep you active. Find a way to close out your year with a positive achievement. Make sure your goal is reasonable and short term. Set yourself up for success If you are celebrating your success, you will not have time to be depressed.    

    Find a partner. If you do suffer from depression, you should not be alone. Partner up with someone you can trust and meet with them as often as possible.  Maybe you can schedule weekly coffee meet-ups or volunteer with someone at a local soup kitchen.  While you are together, be sure to share your feelings (as much as you are comfortable with.) Just the release of those feelings alone, will make you feel a lot lighter---and your partner may offer a new perspective that can ease your depression.

    How do you spend the winter? Is it difficult for you? Joint the discussion in the comment section below.  I want to here from you.


    Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!