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    One Winter Trend You Shouldn't Follow

    As summer comes to an end, I joyfully welcome fall.  Although I am not ready to part with my hot pink summer dresses, I am excited about the return of my blazers, scarves, hats, and my favorite pair of black boots.

    Because I live in the south, there will be a delay in the entrance of cooler weather. So until it arrives, I’ll enjoy the west coast trend of mixing winter boots with summer dresses.


    To all of my male readers, follow me for a minute---I’m going somewhere with this.

    There is another trend that often sneaks its way in with fall.  Statics show, that there is a dramatic increase in reports of depression during the winter months.  As people retreat from their beach vacations, many find themselves feeling less social and less productive.  November and December houses the most significant holidays of the year, and many people find it hard to face those holidays after the loss of loved ones.

    As the sun grows dimmer and the day seems longer, you may feel your mood slowly changing. That is one trend you shouldn't follow.

    If you find it difficult to thrive as the season changes, here is your approach:

    Do not retreat. There are just as many opportunities to be social in the winter as there are in the summer. Create a winter social calendar and remain as active as possible. Being around others who are thriving will help you blossom---even in the winter.

    Set a winter goal.  Creating a specific intention for the winter will keep you active. Find a way to close out your year with a positive achievement. Make sure your goal is reasonable and short term. Set yourself up for success If you are celebrating your success, you will not have time to be depressed.    

    Find a partner. If you do suffer from depression, you should not be alone. Partner up with someone you can trust and meet with them as often as possible.  Maybe you can schedule weekly coffee meet-ups or volunteer with someone at a local soup kitchen.  While you are together, be sure to share your feelings (as much as you are comfortable with.) Just the release of those feelings alone, will make you feel a lot lighter---and your partner may offer a new perspective that can ease your depression.

    How do you spend the winter? Is it difficult for you? Joint the discussion in the comment section below.  I want to here from you.


    Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    Quick Sense Tip: Unload + Reload


    Normally on Nakeia TV, I answer questions that others send in via Facebook, Twitter, or email.  This week, I wanted to switch things up and introduce my Quick Sense Tips. 

    My Quick Sense Tips are things that you can easily add to your life, in an instant, and expect to get instant results. If you are like me, you appreciate some instant gratification every now and then.  That is where my Quick Sense Tip will come in handy.

    Now, enough of the explanation, let’s get to today’s Episode of Nakeia TV.

    Have you ever found yourself half-way through your day and the only thing that you have completed is a thought marathon? You wake up just fine, but somewhere between breakfast and lunch you get lost in your own thoughts.

    I share 2 things that you can do to become a amster of your own thoughts and get more done during the day.

    This week's approach:

    • Unload
    • Reload

    How do you get rid of negative thoughts? Join the discussion in the comments section below.  I also want to add a challenge to this week’s tip.  Starting tomorrow morning, I want you to unload and reload every day for 7 days.  On the seventh day, I want to hear from you.  I want to know, specifically, if this strategy has helped you get more done during the day, and if you have seen a dramatic decrease in your negative thoughts.

    If you like this video as well as the others do me a favor and subscribe to Nakeia TV here. Also, share this approach with someone that you know could use it.


    Until Next time Loves...when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    How A Lesson Learned Can Change Someone Else's Life.

    The other day, I had the pleasure of enjoying a delicious cup of Vanilla Chai Latte with someone who could totally relate to me.  She lived one street over from me in the projects; and although we never hung out as young girls, talking as we sipped on the best cup of tea I've ever had---took me right back to my childhood.

    As we shared our past experiences, some good and some bad, it was confirmed---more than ever that we are exactly where we should be at this moment in our lives.

    I have shared with you many times how I use to wish my past was different.  I wished I hadn't grown up in the hood, that I was raised by my parents, and that I wasn't exposed to so many horrible things. Then years ago, as I began to share my story, I saw the effect that knowing that you are not alone, knowing that someone else has experienced some of the same things that you have experienced---and made it to the other side--- could actually have. 

    Your past is only relevant if what you have learned from it can help you or someone else. Pushing pass your past and reaching a point in your life where you can share your experience, can be the difference between someone else giving up or pushing their way through.

    If you have been pittying your past instead of learning from it, and want to get to the other side, here is your approach:

    Crash the pity party. Believe me, I know what it is like to feel pitiful. I also know what it's like to get over it---and that feel so muchbetter. Give yourself a huge jolt by immediately indulging in something that brings you great pleasure. It can be a shopping spree, a spontaneous trip back home, a week day off from work, a cup of tea with an old friend.  What ever you can do to give yourself a quick and immediately jolt, do it now.

    Ride the joy cloud. It is impossible to be joyful and pitiful at the same time.  So, use that joyful moment to create permanent joy in your life. As soon as you feeling of joy is at it's peak, sit down right in that moment and write a list of things that you are grateful to have learned from your past. You may have learned what it means to be a real friend, to trust your own instincts, or to love yourself more. Write for as long as the lessons keep coming.

    Teach what you've learned.Someone you know, needs a lesson in friendship, trust, or love. Those lesson are not just for you. Teach what you have learned.  Thinking of someone else will take the focus off of your own self pity, and put your life back into perspective.

    If you can relate to my story of learning from the past, share with us in the comments below.  What specific lesson from your past could you share with someone else today? How could using my approach change what you are experiencing right now?


    Until next time Loves...when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!