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    Wednesday
    Aug292012

    How A Lesson Learned Can Change Someone Else's Life.

    The other day, I had the pleasure of enjoying a delicious cup of Vanilla Chai Latte with someone who could totally relate to me.  She lived one street over from me in the projects; and although we never hung out as young girls, talking as we sipped on the best cup of tea I've ever had---took me right back to my childhood.

    As we shared our past experiences, some good and some bad, it was confirmed---more than ever that we are exactly where we should be at this moment in our lives.

    I have shared with you many times how I use to wish my past was different.  I wished I hadn't grown up in the hood, that I was raised by my parents, and that I wasn't exposed to so many horrible things. Then years ago, as I began to share my story, I saw the effect that knowing that you are not alone, knowing that someone else has experienced some of the same things that you have experienced---and made it to the other side--- could actually have. 

    Your past is only relevant if what you have learned from it can help you or someone else. Pushing pass your past and reaching a point in your life where you can share your experience, can be the difference between someone else giving up or pushing their way through.

    If you have been pittying your past instead of learning from it, and want to get to the other side, here is your approach:

    Crash the pity party. Believe me, I know what it is like to feel pitiful. I also know what it's like to get over it---and that feel so muchbetter. Give yourself a huge jolt by immediately indulging in something that brings you great pleasure. It can be a shopping spree, a spontaneous trip back home, a week day off from work, a cup of tea with an old friend.  What ever you can do to give yourself a quick and immediately jolt, do it now.

    Ride the joy cloud. It is impossible to be joyful and pitiful at the same time.  So, use that joyful moment to create permanent joy in your life. As soon as you feeling of joy is at it's peak, sit down right in that moment and write a list of things that you are grateful to have learned from your past. You may have learned what it means to be a real friend, to trust your own instincts, or to love yourself more. Write for as long as the lessons keep coming.

    Teach what you've learned.Someone you know, needs a lesson in friendship, trust, or love. Those lesson are not just for you. Teach what you have learned.  Thinking of someone else will take the focus off of your own self pity, and put your life back into perspective.

    If you can relate to my story of learning from the past, share with us in the comments below.  What specific lesson from your past could you share with someone else today? How could using my approach change what you are experiencing right now?

     

    Until next time Loves...when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!

    Monday
    Aug272012

    Do What Most Experts Tell You NOT To Do.

    Do you find yourself getting overwhelmed by all of the things you want to do? You may love baking, sewing, running, playing an instrument, teaching, singing, and every other thing you are good at. But, you may not know which, of the many things you love, to pursue. Well I’m going to tell you to do what most experts tell you NOT to do.

    Vivian asked me this question on my Facebook page:

    I am an elementary school teacher, but I am also passionate about writing and baking. How do I know which one of my passions is the right one to pursue?

    Well let’s just say I know a little bit about being multi-passionate. I am a songwriter, blogger, retired makeup artist, speaker, and mentor. I would call that multi-passionate---wouldn’t you? So... I am going to give you an answer that you never saw coming! Pursue. Them. All. That’s right. Pursue them all.

    Before you begin your pursuit, be clear on your intention. Are you pursuing that passion as a career or a hobby? Will your passion add value to others? Will pursing your passion fill a void in your life?

    I shared this video and this article, in its entirety, in my FREE Newsletter this week. I also shared exclusive updates and a personal note from me to the subscribers. If you want a copy of my FREE Newsletter you can subscribe right here.

    If you are multi-passionate, I want to hear from you. Join the discussion below. Are you overwhelmed by everything you love? How will you implement this approach?

    If you like this video as well as the others do me a favor and subscribe to Nakeia TV here. Also, share this approach with someone that you know could use it.

    Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!

    Friday
    Aug242012

    How a Note To Self Can Change Your Life

    Last night was Curriculum Night at my daughter's school.  Waiting for us, at her desk, was a note addressed to the family.

     

    I love getting notes from her.  She has definately developed my habit of writing EVERYTHING down. Yes we live in the same house, but getting a hand written note from time to time is just special.

    In addition to the many notes, letters, and post-its addressed to others you may find around my house, you will also see notes that I write to myself. I write notes that say Kai wants to wear a dress tomorrow and get to post office before 12pm.  I also write notes that say you have 3 days to meet your deadline and accomplish your goal and remember to do what matters most.

    Notes to myself have become a staple for me.  Thanks to technology, when I don't have a pen and paper handy, I can use my phone to create notes and reminders. 

    Life can be overwhelming sometimes.  From deadlines to distractions--- from being busy to being lazy, sometimes a note to self is exactly what you need to stay focused.

    If you have been dealing with overwhelm and find yourself getting off track, here is your approach:

    Create a note to self. You may be thinking how is writing myself a note going to change my life. Well writing the note alone wont change a thing, but being accountable will.  If used startegically, your note to self can serve as an excellent accounatability partner.

    Post it. Posting your notes in places you will be sure to see them is a must. Place them on a bathroom mirror, coffee machine, front door, or steering wheel. You can't ignore what is staring you right in the face.

    Act on it. You can have 100 notes posted in your house from corner to corner, but if you don't act on them you will remain the same. Don't just think about it, talk about it, and write a note about it, ACT ON IT.

    Let's talk! Join the discussion in the comments below. In fact, if you are bold enough, write your Note To Self below. What do you need to be reminded of? Where will you post your note?

     

    Until Next time Loves...when in doubt, simply do what makes sense