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    The Fight of Your Life

    Was it a broken heart?

    Was it a pink slip from your dream job?

    Was it a new marriage?

    Was it your first born or unborn child?

    Was it a broken promise?

    Was it your unexpected diagnosis?

    Was it your big idea?

    Was it a decision to do something different?

    What ever it was that brought you to this point in life---all of it--- was for your good.

    The moment you realize that, will also be the moment you finally take that deep breath and move forward with purpose.

    I learned a long time ago that I will never win if I put myself in a ring with life. Life is too big and too powerful to fight.  Instead, I sat down with life and had a long discussion about how I want to live it and what the rules were going to be.  At the end of that discussion, life and I became partners and together we found my purpose.

    Now I know that what I just said is the deepest thing that you have ever read from me.  It may sound really metaphorical and all “Eat, Pray, Love-ish.” But sometimes you have to go deep in order to build yourself up higher.

    Your past is relevant when what you learn form it helps you and someone else.  It is time that you learn from it.

    If you are tired of feeling beat up by life, and are ready to partner with it to find your purpose, here is your approach:

    Stop fighting it. At this point in your life, it is what it is---not what it should be or what you may want it to be.  But that’s okay.  Your life is not over.  Just end the fight. Take a moment to have the discussion. Define the type of life you want to live and how you plan to make it all happen.  

    Acknowledge the lessons. It is easy to overlook the lesson that a difficult circumstance can bring. Go back to the moment you experienced your most difficult circumstance, and welcome the lesson.  Could you learn to listen to your intuition more? Could you learn to be more assertive and to give less of your power away? Could you learn how to be a better friend or a better spouse? Whatever lesson you learn could be the one thing you needed to take you to the next level.

    Become a partner. When you learn to work with your life and not against it, you gain control over the type of life you want to live. Instead of life just happening to you and around you, live begins to happen for you.  Nothing happens without your consent or awareness.


    Let’s talk.  Join me in the comments section below.  Have you been feeling beat up by life? How have you handled difficult circumstances in the past? How will you apply my approach?

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    Until next time Loves…When in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    Get What You Deserve

    Yesterday morning I had the pleasure of sharing the importance of setting goals to high school students here in Atlanta.

    Sharing with teens is something that is extremely important to me for several reasons; but the main reason is because when I see them, I see myself.  When I was a teen, I often felt misunderstood, undervalued, and overwhelmed. I was facing a lot of issues that the adults around me just couldn’t relate to, and I wish I had someone, like me, to come to my school and tell me that who I was and what I wanted mattered.

    So, as part of my work, I go around to high schools, non-profit agencies, and faith-based organizations for the sole purpose of telling as many teens as I can, that who they are and what they want matters. I believe that before they can even begin to set goals and attempt to achieve them, they must believe that they are worth it.

    The irony is that most of the adults that I have the privilege of sharing with feel misunderstood, undervalued, and overwhelmed.  Somewhere along the way, they have either lost touch with who they really are, or never had the opportunity to define themselves in the first place.  They also have a hard time connecting with the fact that what they want for their lives matters.

    Whether I am sharing with teens or adults, my message is the same.

    What you want matters.

    You deserve to live a life that is filled with things that matter to you the most. You deserve to live in a place you love, with the people you love, doing the things that you love. 

    You can have that life, if you connect with how brilliant you are, and the fact that what you are matters.

    Feeling misunderstood, undervalued, and overwhelmed? Here is your approach:

    Redefine yourself. Our circumstances reveal who we are. Everything that has happened to you and around you has absolutely put a spotlight on the person you are today. What does that spotlight reveal about you? Who are you? Are you a survivor or are you a victim? Are you a person who finishes no matter what; or do you give up easily? Redefine yourself by seeing what the spotlight really reveals about you. You will see that you are far greater that you believed you are.

    Get what you deserve. What you want matters and it’s time that you start getting what you want.  Create a habit of getting what you want by setting a goal to experience the things that matter to you the most each day. It may be as simple as getting the best cup of coffee your city has to offer or as big as finally putting an offer on that home that you have been drooling over for months. If you want it, you deserve to get it.  


    Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!  


    Take the LEAP

    You’re afraid. You think it will never happen.  You’re overwhelmed.  You think it’s too big for you to handle.  You’re embarrassed.  You think your past will prevent you from experiencing it.   You feel alone. You have no one to support you on your journey.  You’re on the edge.  You think if you take the leap, nothing will be there to catch you.

    So, what are you going to do about it?

    Do you spend one more second of your life in fear, overwhelm, embarrassment, loneliness---on the edge? Or, do you leap and hit the ground running in the direction of your purpose---despite your fear, overwhelm, embarrassment, and loneliness.


    If you have been living on the edge---and now---you are ready to take that leap, here is your approach:


    Leap.  If you take the leap, your purpose will catch you. Your dreams and hopes for your life are a gift to you. Whatever it is that you want you deserve. Leap---hit the ground and run for your life!


     Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!