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    song creator, inspirational writer/speaker, good food cooker, lipstick wearer… a girl from the projects who decided NOT to settle. I'm a believer- in God, in dreams, in love, and in hustle with heart. find out more about me here.















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    Take the LEAP

    You’re afraid. You think it will never happen.  You’re overwhelmed.  You think it’s too big for you to handle.  You’re embarrassed.  You think your past will prevent you from experiencing it.   You feel alone. You have no one to support you on your journey.  You’re on the edge.  You think if you take the leap, nothing will be there to catch you.

    So, what are you going to do about it?

    Do you spend one more second of your life in fear, overwhelm, embarrassment, loneliness---on the edge? Or, do you leap and hit the ground running in the direction of your purpose---despite your fear, overwhelm, embarrassment, and loneliness.


    If you have been living on the edge---and now---you are ready to take that leap, here is your approach:


    Leap.  If you take the leap, your purpose will catch you. Your dreams and hopes for your life are a gift to you. Whatever it is that you want you deserve. Leap---hit the ground and run for your life!


     Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    One Reason You're Not Getting What You Want

    I had the best conversation with my spin instructor today.  As we were preparing to leave class, she shared her story of getting over an eating disorder, helping her daughter with her issues with food, and setting a goal to look absolutely fabulous at 61 years old. 

    Jeanie (that’s my instructor’s name) is 61 years old, but you wouldn’t know that by looking at her.  She seems to be in her prime and she easily puts my 30 something year old self to total shame.

    In an effort to finally find my prime, I get to the gym 30-45 minutes before class begins---and I participate in my very own one-woman spin session.  The goal is to do that every day, but I don’t always meet my goal.

    I was really inspired by Jeanie’s story, but it was what she shouted out during class that really stuck with me.  As we were approaching the top of our climb, Jeanie said dig deep---you can you do it. You have the ability; all you need is the desire. How bad do you want to reach the top of this hill? For you non-spinners, reaching the top of the hill means you can take some of the resistance off of the bike and ride for a while. 

    Well, I have paraphrased that statement and made it my own, but the message is the same. You have the ability, but do you have the desire?

    There is nothing that you can’t do---if you really want to do it.  There is always a way. The problem is that the will or desire is not always present. Not to sound cliché-ish, but where there is a will or desire, there is a way.

    If you are not achieving your goals, meeting your expectations, and experiencing success in the things that matter to you the most, it is not because you lack the ability.  It is because you don’t want it bad enough.

    Let’s live with the truth for a minute.  Think about the last thing that you really wanted--- the last thing that you just had to have--- so you got it. Were you proud of yourself?  How did you feel the moment it became yours?  Now here is the truth, you know how you are, when you really want something, you do what you need to do to get it.

    You are not alone. We all go after what we really want.

    If you have been struggling to figure out how to finally get what you want, here is your approach:

    Want it bad enough. You have the ability; all you need is the desire.


    Can you relate? Join the discussion in the comments below. What do you really want? What will you do to get it?


    Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    Relationship Talk: Are You Spending Time With The Right People?

    There isn’t a day that goes by that my daughter Kai doesn’t teach me something.  She causes to me think, inspires me to change, and motivates me to be the best me that I can be.

    She has become my greatest teacher.  It was eight years ago, when I found out that I was pregnant with her, that I really tightened my grasp on my purpose.   My purpose expanded to include being the best mother I could be.  Typically it is the parent’s responsibility to teach the child. But, being a parent has taught me so many profound lessons, that it has become an undeniable agent of my success.Relationships, in general, are agents of success.  From our parents to our spouses, from our friends to our bosses---every person that we come in contact with should add value to our lives.  

    If you are not better because of the people you spend time with the most, you are spending time with the wrong people. It is critical that you surround yourself with people that will cause you to think, inspire you to change, and motivates you to be better. 

    Let’s consider the three people that you engage with the most.  It may be your spouse, your business partner, a parent, or a sibling.  How do you feel when you are with them? How do you feel when they leave? What do you talk about? How have they changed your life?

    If your answers to those questions are all warm and fuzzy---whoo hoo!! You have some fabulous people in your circle. 

    If merely answering those questions has zapped even a once of your energy, here is your approach:

    Define the nature of your relationship. Understanding the quality, aspect, and existence of a relationship will give you the direction you need to navigate it better. Too often, we elevate people to a space in our lives that they have not earned and do no deserve. Define the relationship and move forward with a better understanding.

    Set boundaries. Just because you have allowed someone to hold space in your life, doesn’t mean they have free reign.  Once you have defined the relationship, make sure that it is clear to you and to the other person in your life, what is acceptable and what isn’t. If they deserve a space in your life, they will respect you and your boundaries.

    Give what you want to get in return.  There is no real relationship without reciprocity---and--- we teach people how to treat us.  If you are kind, loving, loyal, supportive, and inspiring, the people in your life (if the are the right people) will be kind, loving, loyal, supportive, and inspiring.

    What were your answers to the questions above? Who are the people holding spaces in your life? Have they earned the right to be there? I want to hear from you.  Join me in the comment sections below.


    Until nest time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!