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    An Approach For Slow Bloomers

    After picking my daughter up from school and just before pulling into my garage, I drove past the flowers in front of my house and complained almost everyday.

    In spite of the fact that it was a wonderful summer here in Atlanta, our roses just wouldn’t bloom.  So, I complained.  Everyday, as I pulled into my garage, I complained to my daughter about our lack of roses. Then, one day as I was passing by, I glanced over and saw this:

    It was one lone beautiful pink rose in full bloom.  I screeched for my daughter to come over to see the rose, and with this weird look on her face, she said mom that flower has been there the whole time---it’s just finally big and pretty today.  I said no it hasn’t. And---of course she asserted that it had, in fact, been there the whole time.

    What a lesson.  I was so focused on what was lacking that I failed to see the one thing that was slowly blooming everyday.

    Such is life.  As we strive to achieve our greatest ambitions, the little things that we take for granted everyday, are in fact slowly striving to be great on our behalf. The stuff we overlook and pass by is just as important as the things we deem to be great. It is those things---those little things--- that support us while we are preparing for our greatest desires.    

    If you find yourself so focused on what you are lacking that you overlook the things that are slowly blooming in your life, here is your approach:

    Simply stop and smell the rosesAll is not loss.  There is beauty slowly blooming---but you can’t see it if you are focused on what you don’t have.

    Stay in gratitude. Be thankful for what is working and growing in your life right now.

    Check in daily. Everyone is obsessed with the future. When you are goal driven it is easy to get so focused on what’s ahead, that you breeze past the day-to-day. Checking in with what is going on in your life everyday will keep things in perspective and assist you in embracing the process.


    What have you been overlooking? How will you apply this approach? Join the discussion the comments below. Are you a slow bloomer? What have you done to embrace the process?


    Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    One Winter Trend You Shouldn't Follow

    As summer comes to an end, I joyfully welcome fall.  Although I am not ready to part with my hot pink summer dresses, I am excited about the return of my blazers, scarves, hats, and my favorite pair of black boots.

    Because I live in the south, there will be a delay in the entrance of cooler weather. So until it arrives, I’ll enjoy the west coast trend of mixing winter boots with summer dresses.


    To all of my male readers, follow me for a minute---I’m going somewhere with this.

    There is another trend that often sneaks its way in with fall.  Statics show, that there is a dramatic increase in reports of depression during the winter months.  As people retreat from their beach vacations, many find themselves feeling less social and less productive.  November and December houses the most significant holidays of the year, and many people find it hard to face those holidays after the loss of loved ones.

    As the sun grows dimmer and the day seems longer, you may feel your mood slowly changing. That is one trend you shouldn't follow.

    If you find it difficult to thrive as the season changes, here is your approach:

    Do not retreat. There are just as many opportunities to be social in the winter as there are in the summer. Create a winter social calendar and remain as active as possible. Being around others who are thriving will help you blossom---even in the winter.

    Set a winter goal.  Creating a specific intention for the winter will keep you active. Find a way to close out your year with a positive achievement. Make sure your goal is reasonable and short term. Set yourself up for success If you are celebrating your success, you will not have time to be depressed.    

    Find a partner. If you do suffer from depression, you should not be alone. Partner up with someone you can trust and meet with them as often as possible.  Maybe you can schedule weekly coffee meet-ups or volunteer with someone at a local soup kitchen.  While you are together, be sure to share your feelings (as much as you are comfortable with.) Just the release of those feelings alone, will make you feel a lot lighter---and your partner may offer a new perspective that can ease your depression.

    How do you spend the winter? Is it difficult for you? Joint the discussion in the comment section below.  I want to here from you.


    Until next time Loves…when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!


    Quick Sense Tip: Unload + Reload


    Normally on Nakeia TV, I answer questions that others send in via Facebook, Twitter, or email.  This week, I wanted to switch things up and introduce my Quick Sense Tips. 

    My Quick Sense Tips are things that you can easily add to your life, in an instant, and expect to get instant results. If you are like me, you appreciate some instant gratification every now and then.  That is where my Quick Sense Tip will come in handy.

    Now, enough of the explanation, let’s get to today’s Episode of Nakeia TV.

    Have you ever found yourself half-way through your day and the only thing that you have completed is a thought marathon? You wake up just fine, but somewhere between breakfast and lunch you get lost in your own thoughts.

    I share 2 things that you can do to become a amster of your own thoughts and get more done during the day.

    This week's approach:

    • Unload
    • Reload

    How do you get rid of negative thoughts? Join the discussion in the comments section below.  I also want to add a challenge to this week’s tip.  Starting tomorrow morning, I want you to unload and reload every day for 7 days.  On the seventh day, I want to hear from you.  I want to know, specifically, if this strategy has helped you get more done during the day, and if you have seen a dramatic decrease in your negative thoughts.

    If you like this video as well as the others do me a favor and subscribe to Nakeia TV here. Also, share this approach with someone that you know could use it.


    Until Next time Loves...when in doubt, simply do what makes sense!