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    song creator, inspirational writer/speaker, good food cooker, lipstick wearer… a girl from the projects who decided NOT to settle. I'm a believer- in God, in dreams, in love, and in hustle with heart. find out more about me here.















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    Don't Settle Interview Series With Destiney LaVonia

    The internet can be a crazy place.

    You can get catfished or you can meet the love of your life.

    You can troll social media accounts for gossip or catch up with old friends from 3rd grade.

    You can buy the latest trendy pair of jeans or you can sale you very own line of trendy products.

    You can read about the latest celebrity blogs or you can create positive blog of your own where women can be inspired.

    I have experienced some craziness on the interweb (like that time some woman from somehwere accused me of stealing her song.)  But, most of my expeirences have been great...

    Like that time I met Destiney LaVonia of  Destiney and I met on Instagram.  Her hustle, her motherhood, and her message inspires me as well as the almost 75 thousand followers she connects with everyday.  We connected and few years back and have sinced developed a pretty awesome business relationship and friendship. 

    Destiney was an early supportor of my Don't Settle Movement; which makes since becuase she has made a decision not to settle many times in her own life. She is a mother, influencer, blogger, and mentor.  She is totally legit. So, I just had to have her join me in my Don't Settle Interview Series.

    Nakeia: I was excited to introduce you, but do you say that you are?

    Destiney: Thank you so much for taking the time to chat with me! I'm Destiney, just a woman who is finding her way through life. I just happen to do so a little more publicly thanks to social media. I'm a mother, an entrepreneur, a blogger, and my daughter, Honor's biggest fan!

    Nakeia: You are all of that. lol Now tell me who you were before knowing all of that?

    Destiney: Before I had Honor, I still loved who I was and who I was working on becoming.  Motherhood just really helped me find myself in a way I didn't see coming. It's been a driving force in me that I'm so grateful for, you know... The last four years have changed me and molded me in some incredible ways.

    Nakeia: I hear you. I always say: the day I found out I was going to become a mother changed the game for me. It was a defining moment, for sure. Was there a moment in your life when you made a conscious decision NOT to settle?

    Destiney:Yes! For sure! Right before I became pregnant with my daughter, I was in a really deep depression. I made a conscious decision, when I found out that I was pregnant, to no longer settle in my life or for THAT kind of life. I wasn't going to bring her into the world while I was down and out. I don't think that everyone can pull themselves out alone, and I don't trivialize the significance of depression. But, for me personally, I was able to use my pregnancy to propel myself mentally into a better place, and ever since then I will not settle in any area or aspect of my life.

    Nakeia: Wow. I totally relate. I am sure many other mothers, or just women in general can relate to that. Most have been down and out at some point in life. And you are right. It's difficult to find your way out on your own.  Where would you be had you NOT made that decision?

    Destiney: I honestly don't know where I would be today, had I not fought so hard to beat my depression and change my life. I think people, especially depressed people, don't have the motivation to make changes. If it hadn't been for Honor, I don't know what would have been strong enough to pull me out of it. It really breaks my heart to even think about it, but it's an important part of who I am today. 

    Nakeia:Wow again. As someone who has struggled with depression, and even diagnosed with anxiety, I appreciate this conversation so much. How has making that decision changed your life?

    Destiney: It's night and day. Depression is a double edged sword and it effects all aspects of your life. My life after beating depression, and being able to say I'll no longer make choices that led me down that path, is so empowering. It's like coming up for air.

    Nakeia: Yes! What advice would you give to someone who is tired of settling or on the verge of settling?

    Destiney: Stop before you make any more decisions and look at your life going both ways. If you settle, or if you don't. Will your long term actually be better or only your short term? Don't let the allure of short term happiness overhaul the importance of what you can do with your future if you allow yourself not to settle. You can beat depression too. Becoming Honor's mother is what helped pull me out. Find something in your life that is important enough for you to hold on to, and let it hep pull you out.   There is life after depression. Come up for some air, girl!   

    Nakeia: Thank you so much, Destiney. I always enjoy my chats with you.


    You can catch up with Destiney LaVonia of here. Be sure to subscribed to her blog. She has some exciting things coming up for moms, bloggers, and creative entreprenuers. Follower her on Instagram here.