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    The Ultimate Guide To A Happy Birthday


    I woke up in tears on my 30th birthday.

    I tried to hold on to my 20’s for dear life... I went to bed a vibrant, confident, and hopeful 29 year old and woke up as if my whole world had ended overnight. 

    After a huge dose of reality from my husband, who reminded me of my classmate who had just died from breast cancer, I felt extremely guilty.

    I was guilty of being ungrateful, trying to re-live the past, and throwing a quarter-life temper tantrum.  I promised myself that I would never do that again and vowed to wake up a happy 30 year old the next day.

    I’ve kept my promise and will soon wake up to another happy birthday.  I rarely do anything big to celebrate. I do a little countdown with my sister (her birthday is the day before mine,) write out a sort of declaration for how I want to live the next year of my life, and say a prayer of thanks for being blessed to see another year.

    I used to write out the predictable To-Do before My Birthday List.  But last year I created The Ultimate Guide to a Happy Birthday.

    Most of the anxiety surrounding birthdays have to do with what didn’t get done the year before or fear of what it may be too late to do in the present.  This guide is inspired by how I want to feel and who I want to become during this next year of my life.


    The Ultimate Guide to a Happy Birthday:

    Leave the year before, behind- and take the lessons you’ve learned from it with you. It is important to close each chapter of your life and make room for a new one. Create a “what I’ve learned this year list” to help you recap and move forward.

    Stop longing to be younger. It just can’t happen. Use that energy to engage in things that make you feel more alive and in great health. Think less about your age and more about your quality of life.

    Start something new. Newness inspires growth, evolution, and gives you something to look forward to.  Start a new workout regimen. Learn a new talent. Join a new book club.

    Change something about your appearance. Let what is going on internally be reflected in your external appearance.  It doesn’t need to be drastic. It can be a few new wardrobe pieces, a new hair color, or a good trim. Do something that makes you feel confident as you move into the next year of your life.

    Surround yourself with the people you love.  This is a given.  You need great people- who totally get you in your tribe. Spending another year with them is an added bonus. Make plans for lunch dates, nights out on the town, and even time to unwind with them throughout the year to come.

    Have a meaningful celebration. Spend your birthday celebrating in a way that makes you feel appreciated, grateful, and fired up. Go dancing. Host a dinner party (with you as the guest of honor.)  Go away for the weekend. Take a day-trip. Do whatever you love doing in celebration of another year of life.

    Don’t make your birthday about what you’ve done. Make it about how you feel. You can do great things at any age. But, how you feel when you do it, is where the magic really is. Focus on what makes you feel good, what makes you come alive, and what gets you fired up. Create a declaration for your new year of life that is inspired by how you want to feel.


    Above all... lighten up + have the ultimate happy birthday.


    Until next time, Love...

    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."

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