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    song creator, inspirational writer/speaker, good food cooker, lipstick wearer… a girl from the projects who decided NOT to settle. I'm a believer- in God, in dreams, in love, and in hustle with heart. find out more about me here.















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    What I Want For You On My Birthday...


    I celebrate a new year on my birthday. 

    With just as much (if not more) anticipation as seeing the clock strike 12am, on January 1st, I wait for 12am, May 7th to show up every year. 

    My goal for 36 was to connect with people (both in business and personally) who totally get me...

    To be more of myself, in every way, so that the people who needed me and every lesson my life has taught me, could find me. 

    You found me. That’s so special to me.

    I came to the realization that life isn't all about me, years ago. I have new goals for 37, and more wishes that need to come true, but these wishes are for you:

    1. Show yourself some love.  No more negative talk. No more sacrificing your peace for someone else's pleasure. You need love. You need time. You need care. Take care of you.

    2. Be YOU. Like for real. No dumbing down. No more pretending you're not great (we both know you are.) You are who God created you to be and nothing less. Act like it. Give your world the pleasure of knowing you, for real.

    3. Don't Settle. Like ever. Every single thing you want, you should have (all the good stuff anyway.) Your settling does nothing for you and the people who love you. We want to see you win in every area of your life. Go for it. Do more. Live higher. Dream bigger. Don’t you dare settle. 


    What I want for you on my birthday

    is every good thing you’ve always wanted

    for yourself.



    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."


    How To Handle Bad News (even if you're a drama queen)



    “Don’t nobody bring me no bad news.”

    - Diana Ross, The Wiz


    I wish I could hire someone to sing that song every time some bad news decides to swing my way.


    I know. It’s a part of life.

    Good and bad. Highs and lows. Comings and goings.

    Loss. Disappointment. Heartbreak. Failure…

    But, there comes a time in just about everyone’s life, when it seems like one more piece of bad news is going to end it all. Well, at least it seems that way if you’re a drama queen, like me (shout out to all the drama queens!)

    Bad news is bad, but it’s just news.  Once you step out of your dramatic scene, you will see that it doesn’t have to end it all, you can control how to lands in your space, and you can make what was once bad news, the best scene in the story of your life (keeping in line with that whole corny drama theme here, of course.)


    Here are 4 Things You Should Do When Bad News Comes Your Way:

    1. Take a minute. When bad news comes, it often hits pretty hard. Allow yourself a few moments to take it all in. If it hurts, be hurt. If it’s disappointing, be disappointed. If it’s the most devastating news of your life, allow yourself a moment of devastation. Acknowledge your true feelings so that you can begin the process of healing from them.

    2. Own your part in it (if there is any.) This is a twist on self-care. Loving yourself requires a great deal of self-awareness and personal responsibility. Much of the bad news you will experience will be outside of your control. And then… there’s the bad news that comes as a consequence of ignoring your intuition, lowering your standards, and rocking with the wrong people. Assess the situation and own your stuff. Ownership gives you power- power to call the shots, moving forward.

    3. Look for the lesson. That line is the biggest cliché ever. It’s also the biggest truth ever. There is and will always be a lesson. Look for that sucker and hold on to it for dear life. Don’t go through the bad and walk away empty handed. You’ve earned that lesson and trust me, you’ll need it. The next time you feel rejected, you’ll see that it’s protection (or redirection.) The next time you see things (and people) falling away, you’ll recognize that it’s a change in season. You’ll start seeing your mistakes as opportunities to grow. You’ll learn that the lesson that came in the form of bad news actually came to make you better.

    4. Make your next move. Being hit with bad news may cause you to pause, but it should render you motionless. Stay in motion. Ask yourself: what’s next? What should I do next? Where should I go next? Who should I connect with next? What is the next right action? Take some time here and really listen for the answer. Once, you’re clear, make your move.


    Keep living, Love.

    Bad news soon come- and when it does, you’ll handle it.


    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."


    Some Inevitables Of Life 

     Photo By: Kelley Raye


    You only get one (make it count.)

    You will love it. You will grow up and into your life in a way that makes you feel really good about it. Enjoy that moment, because… life.

    You will hate it. One day, you will look around and wonder what the heck happened. Be patient. It will pass.

    You will get it together. You always do.

    One day (or once a year) it will feel like it’s falling apart. Breakups, betrayals, disappointments, setbacks, loss, failure… all apart of life. Not the end of it. Grow through these moments, because…life.

    Some people won’t get it (the people who matter will.)

    Some people will try to control it. Don’t let them.

    Some people will walk out of it (the people who matter will stay.)

    It will be painful.

    It will be peaceful.

    One day it will all make sense, and you will be grateful for every moment of it.



    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."