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    Tuesday
    Mar312015

    Intuition Is A Lifesaver

     

    had never pushed a baby out before…

    I wasn’t a nurse or a doctor.

    I didn’t have a mid-wife or doula.

    But I had my intuition. And it was telling me something wasn’t right.

    I told the nurse what I felt. She said I was over reacting. She said my body was just balancing out. She said get some rest. I tried. But my intuition started speaking again- saying something isn’t right.

    I told the other nurse... She told the other nurse... They both came in and said get some rest. I tried. But my intuition started speaking again- this time saying, tell them again. I felt crazy, a little hormonal and attempted to quiet my intuition and get some rest.

    CONTEXT: I had been in labor for 3 full days, I endured a natural birth, my daughter was born with fluid in her lunges, I had never pushed a baby out before, and I was exhausted. I thought I was delirious.

    I had convinced myself that I was being extra, and decided to totally ignore my intuition. Intuition continued to speak- this time screaming something isn’t right, Nakeia!

    I stood up to get myself ready to go to bed, when I began to physically feel that something intuition was trying to tell me. 

    I called the nurse in and told her that I she needed to check me… and finally, she did…

    I woke up the next morning with the other nurse standing over me in tears.

     

    That was the night intuition saved my life.

     

    My intuition: the voice that speaks the words God wants me to hear- when I need to hear from Him the most. It’s my divine guidance.  It’s my saving grace. It’s my super power, and I’ll never ignore it again.

     

    LESSON 

    Following your intuition may make you + the people around you uncomfortable. Listening to a voice inside your head may seem crazy. It’s a sacred practice that may take some time to develop. But when that voice speaks, listen. It’s your super power and one day, it will save your life.

     

     

     

    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."

    Tuesday
    Mar242015

    Opportunity Doesn't Care About Your Feelings (Go With The Flow)

     

    I put my all into everything I write.

    My creative process is simple.  I like to feel it first, so that what I put out is coming directly from me- and then… I let it flow.

    Some days I feel nothing.  Some days I feel like crap. Some days I feel love. Some days I feel overwhelmed. Some days I feel content. Some days I feel like drinking Pepsi and watching Law & Order marathons…

    Because I am an artist, some would say that’s a good thing. Having all of those different emotions should keep me content-rich. I should be able to pull from any of those spaces, and write. Right?

    There’s a problem with that process.

    Since I write for other people, I need to be able to write on demand- from whatever space is being demanded. Sometimes what I’m feeling, personally, doesn’t matter. I can’t always let what I feel, flow.

    If I wanted to be able to take advantage of the opportunities that have come my way, I had to learn to go with the flow.

    LESSON

    What you are feeling is very real. Feelings are instinctive. You can’t always control them. Feelings are also circumstantial. They are your natural reaction to whatever you are facing at the time- which makes them temporary.

    I get it.

    Your circumstances are hectic.

    You are facing some made-for-TV type stuff.

    You feel like crap. You feel hurt. You feel betrayed. You feel overwhelmed. You feel confused. You feel like shutting off the world, posting up on the couch, and watching a marathon of your favorite show- hoping to eventually feel nothing at all...

    The thing is: circumstances change. Your life can change in an instant.

    You may be one phone call... One email. One big promotion. One proposal. One knock on the door, away from the opportunity of a lifetime.

    Don’t miss out on opportunity because you are in your feelings.

    Life demands that you keep going. Sometimes you have to ignore what you feel, pick your strong, resilient, and powerfully amazing self up, and just go… Get in the flow. You can handle it.

    The life of your dreams is on the other side of everything you are facing right now.

     

     

    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."

    Tuesday
    Mar172015

    How To Feel Less Anxious (So You Don't Punch A Nurse In The Face)

     

    I just couldn’t catch my breath.

    I needed 1 good breath to regain my composure, and I couldn’t do it.

    I tried really hard.  My attempts looked like a 2 year old child being taught how to blow out birthday candles for the first time.  In my mind I was saying, just breath… take a deep breath…”  The more I tried the shallower and more rapid my breaths became. So many things were running through my mind. I tried to say a prayer, but I was interrupted.

    She said, listenyou’re going to make your self pass out! Stop and take a breath! She was the intake nurse at the ER and she was trying to ask me some important questions. I tried to answer. I was really trying. But I was hurting, vomiting, and apparently having a serious panic attack.

    I managed to get that prayer out. And it was a good thing I did, because after I got myself together, the first thing I wanted to do was punch that nurse in the face. I was in serious pain, felt like a complete idiot for not being able to breathe, and she was yelling at me… saying breathe… as if I was intentionally skipping the very thing I need to do to stay alive.

    That was about 7 years ago, and just 1 of many other trips to the ER.  I was officially diagnosed with anxiety something or another that was induced by a separate undiagnosed illness (I think that’s cause for anxiety, don’t you?) But, anxiety has been an issue for me since childhood. I’m told it’s a side effect of being raised in a household with 2 active drug abusers. All I know is whenever I am in a position I can’t control, feel major fear of any kind, and get overwhelmed by too much at one time, I feel really, really anxious. 

    *I chose not to take any pills for it, and I think I would drive a therapist crazy. I’ve also mastered the whole breath like you’re blowing out candles, thing. However, I still experience moments of anxiousness and when I do, here’s what I do…

    HOW TO FEEL LESS ANXIOUS

    Stick to the facts.  Anxiety is a reaction to uncertainty. When we are uncertain, there is a tendency to make up stuff to fill in the blanks. That stuff is usually worrisome, fear-filled, and angst worthy, stuff. We force our minds to experience all of these negative things that may or may not happen.  Instead of making stuff up, just stick to the facts. Deal with what’s right in front of you at the moment. 

    Distract yourself with what you can do.  We are most anxious about the things we can do nothing about.  I bet if you take a moment to breathe (if you can…I’m not yelling at you or anything) you will find that there are some things that you can do.  Do those things. Regain as much control as you can, and find solace in the fact that you’ve done your part. Face what you can’t change. Fix what you can.

    Let go of what you are having trouble holding on to, anyway.  I have learned that if I can’t control it, it’s already out of my hands. Letting go is a good thing. All of that wasted energy can be restored. Ask for help. Say a prayer. Give your worry, fear, uncertainty, and anxiety to God. Take a breath (when you can) and move on.

    *If you are taking pills for your anxiety or seeing a therapist, keep it up. Make sure you stick to what works for you.  

     

     

    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."