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    song creator, inspirational writer/speaker, good food cooker, lipstick wearer… a girl from the projects who decided NOT to settle. I'm a believer- in God, in dreams, in love, and in hustle with heart. find out more about me here.













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    Brace Yourself For The Best (This Time.)


    Photo by my (ten year old) Kai


    I know this charming man who wakes up every single morning prepared to solve a problem. For over 40 years, he says, he wanted to be ready…

    There this girl at the gym that I chat-it-up with a couple of times a week. She’s decided to either expect the worst or expect nothing at all- that way she has “nothing to lose…”

    There are other variations of the same train of thought, like: I don’t want to get too excited…  I’ll just wait, and see what happens… I don’t want to speak too soon… I don’t wanna get my hopes up…


    Stuff happens. I get it. 

    It’s hard to be hopeful when you’re fresh out of some of the worst times in your life.

    Believe me, I know.

    An unmet expectation is like opening a huge box, with a huge bow on it, on your birthday- and nothing’s in it. It’s a total letdown. 



    What if stuff doesn’t happen?

    What if you get a rush of good times? 

    What if your expectations are met- and even exceeded? 

    I asked the charming man and that girl, this question: 

    What if it all works out?

    I got shoulder shrugs and a little head tilt for an answer.


    Here’s the thing: there is no way to know, for sure, how things are gonna go.

    You can plan, pray, and hope for the best. You can do nothing, expect nothing, and let nothing just happen. You can prepare for the worst… It’s going to go how it’s going to go.

    But many opportunities are missed due to lack of preparation. Many glorious moments are cut short, when you’re trying to play catch-up.

    Your life will rise or fall to meet your thoughts toward it. – JA

    The heartbreak, financial setback, pain, business failure, parental misstep, and other stuff may happen- and you’ve braced yourself for it all, long enough.

    The romance, breakthroughs, financial fluidity, business successes, best decisions, and other glorious stuff?...  That may happen too.

    And when “it” finally happens, are you prepared for it?


    6 Things you can do to prepare for the best:

    Take a course (or read some books.) You’re going to need to know some things.

    Prepare your body. You want to be able to handle it physically.

    Get your mind right. You’re going to need to prepare for it mentally.

    Assemble your crew. You’ll need the support.

    Clean up the clutter + overhaul your life. Make room for what you want the most.

    Get your hopes up… and your life will rise to meet them.




    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."


    The Question That Can Make Your Dreams Come True: How Can I?


    I had no idea how I was going to afford college. 

    I just applied + prayed + packed + showed up + signed away more than half of my first real salary (in student loans.)

    I did what I had to do.

    I had no idea how to write songs or manage a music business. I bought some books, asked tons of questions, sent out 1,000’s of emails, demos, and cold-called music execs.

    How else was I going to land my first single?

    We didn’t have money to pay $100 dollars an hour for studio time.  So we took to our basement + built a booth and charge other people $65 dollars an hour to use it (this is how we supplemented our income for years.) Eventually, we raised our price to $100 an hour.

    That’s how I was able to leave my 9-5 and get my full-time hustle on (my last job was in 2002.)

    I wanted to be a makeup artist.  I couldn’t afford to purchase a kit. So I went to work for MAC Cosmetics to take advantage of the employee discount and gratis. After about a year of learning, getting certified, building a client base, and identifying a niche, I demoted myself to freelance status (I still needed that discount) and started my side-hustle as a makeup artist. Makeup by Nakeia was booming from 2004 until I semi retired it 2009. I still pull out my brushes for a handful of clients.

    I hated retail, but loved being an artist. So, I did what I had to do.

    I needed a portfolio. So, I bartered services with photographers, stylists, and models until I got what I needed. That exchange helped me uncover my talent for taking pretty good pictures- yes, another way to make things happen. 

    I have been able to fund my dreams because instead of focusing on all of the reasons I thought I couldn't do it, I asked the question:

    How can I?

    What are you allowing to keep you from going for it?

    No money? No connections? No problem.

    If you want it, find a way. Figure it out. 

    Don't focus on your lack of resources. Focus your attention on being resourceful.

    How can you use what you already have, what you already know, and what you're already talented at, to fund your dreams?

    Ask the question: How can I?



    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."


    Protect Your Dreams 


    I started dreaming, right there, on that top step that led to our apartment in the projects.

    Everyday my dream grew bigger.  It expanded with every book I read, success story I heard, and doubt I pushed through.  I was a hopeful little girl from the projects.  

    Growing up, I experienced more nightmares than dreams.  Most of the people I knew lived in survival mode. When you are trying to survive, you don't have time to dream.  In fact, if there was time left in the day, it was spent thinking about how to survive the next day.

    The concept of dreaming big seemed foolish.  When I started dreaming of a better life, sometimes I would hear my inner voice say don't even waste your time. It will never happen.  Experiencing the life I have now, I am grateful I didn't listen. Every time I heard that voice, I would make myself dream even bigger.  I did that until I started to doubt the voice instead of my dreams.  I learned to protect my dreams and dream even bigger. After doing that for so many years it became automatic. 

    Sometimes our reality makes it difficult for us to reconcile our dreams with what we actually see in our lives everyday. It takes practice, but we have to learn to shield our dreams from delays, denials, and detours. We have to make our dreams “NO” proof. We even have to protect our dreams against self-doubt, self-sabotage, and self-imposed limits. 

    Your dream can be the remnant of all of the chaos you experience everyday. When the dust settles your dream can still be standing. 

    Your dreams are sacred. They need protecting... 

    Here are a few things you should do to protect your dreams:

    Meditate on them. Make them the first thing you think of in the morning and the last thing you think of at night. What you make a priority in your mind becomes a reality in your life.
    Speak highly of them. The worst thing you can do is belittle your dreams.  They are a big deal. Write them out on a piece of paper and frame it. Read it aloud, often. Make it the visual focal point of your office, bedroom, or car dashboard.

     Act on them. Take daily action toward making your dreams a reality. Spend 30 minutes, each day, doing something concerning them. Spend your weekends dream-building.  

    Your dreams are your sacred hope. They keep you lifted.

    They are your reasons... Your dreams are graceful reminders of what's possible.

    Dream on...



    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."