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    Tuesday
    May262015

    What To Do After Your Plans Fail

     

    Life does not always go as planned.

    That’s one of the most annoying statements of truth- ever.

    But it’s a huge dosage of truth. 

    Even the best of plans, fail. 

     

    When you think about it, there are so many factors involved in most of the things we set out to do.

    It’s you.  But---then there’s them.

    It’s what you want to do.  But---then there’s what they want to do.

    It’s your schedule.  But---then there’s their schedule.

    It’s you.  The you that really wants to take your life into the palm of your hands and mold the best looking life anyone has ever seen.

    But---then it’s you.  The you that feels like life itself is chewing you up and spitting you out.

    So what are you to do?

    Do it anyway?

    Go anyway? Try anyway? Dream anyway? Say it anyway? Be it anyway?

    Yes. Yes to it all. Do! Go! Try! Dream! Speak! Be!

    Do it all, anyway.

    The only thing that is 100% within your control is you- even though you feel totally out of control right now.

    If you are ever going to get what you want the most, you are going to have to get passed the hard stuff.

    Plans fail.  They just do sometimes.

    And when they do, (even when it’s not your fault) just get up; and try again.

    You only need it to work once.

     

    After your plans fail, do this:

    Give yourself a (brief) minute to melt. People who hold on to their emotions (rather than allow themselves to feel) eventually explode.  Don’t wait until you boil over.  Feel what you feel and move on.

    Quickly take the next right action. Hind sight is 20/20.  If you look back, you can probably see where things went wrong.  What went wrong usually points you in the direction of what’s right. As soon as you are clear on what it may be, take the next right action. 

    Document the journey.  I absolutely love a good success story.  The best ones have details of failed attempts.  Don’t cheat yourself out of the luxury of the lesson that accompanies failure.

     

    Everything in your life (the good and the bad) is apart of the story of your success. And when your plans fail again (and they will fail again,) look back on this moment to see how to recover. 

     

     

     

    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."

    Monday
    May182015

    How To Be A Morning Person (Even If You Don't Want To Be)

     

    I strolled into my daughter's school 3 times last week, wearing a bold lip and a sundress.

    I was accused of being a morning person.

    I passed my old gym buddy on my way out of the gym- as she was walking in.

    I was cited for being up before the crack of dawn.

    Although some bad things have happened around me (and even to me,) I haven't had a bad day in weeks.

    Bad day = not being able to fully function because of said bad things.

    None of that happened by accident. I set it up that way.




    You’ve heard me say it 58000000 times: I’m not a morning person.

    I wanted to be. Not really. I needed to be (I have a kid that needs to get to school everyday and another kid that wakes up before Jesus.) So, I did what I needed to do.

    If you ask my family, they would probably say I still don’t qualify as a morning person; but my mornings have been more on than off for a few years now. On = being able to fully function no matter what.

    Before my feet hit the floor, I say a prayer.  Before my kids come down for breakfast, I set my day up. Before I start my workday, I workout. Before I go out to face the rest of the world, I throw on a bold lipstick.

    I have figured out a way to be on, everyday… I’m a few steps closer to being a morning person.

     

    I want you to be on, too. So, I’ve decided to give you The Daily Setup, Daily Planning Worksheets (the new and improved version) for free. All you have to do is sign up for the free 5 Day Love Your Life More Challenge. Basically I just want to give you some free stuff.

    *Sign up at the top (right) of the page.

     

     

     

    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."

    Tuesday
    May052015

    The Ultimate Guide To A Happy Birthday

     

    I woke up in tears on my 30th birthday.

    I tried to hold on to my 20’s for dear life... I went to bed a vibrant, confident, and hopeful 29 year old and woke up as if my whole world had ended overnight. 

    After a huge dose of reality from my husband, who reminded me of my classmate who had just died from breast cancer, I felt extremely guilty.

    I was guilty of being ungrateful, trying to re-live the past, and throwing a quarter-life temper tantrum.  I promised myself that I would never do that again and vowed to wake up a happy 30 year old the next day.

    I’ve kept my promise and will soon wake up to another happy birthday.  I rarely do anything big to celebrate. I do a little countdown with my sister (her birthday is the day before mine,) write out a sort of declaration for how I want to live the next year of my life, and say a prayer of thanks for being blessed to see another year.

    I used to write out the predictable To-Do before My Birthday List.  But last year I created The Ultimate Guide to a Happy Birthday.

    Most of the anxiety surrounding birthdays have to do with what didn’t get done the year before or fear of what it may be too late to do in the present.  This guide is inspired by how I want to feel and who I want to become during this next year of my life.

     

    The Ultimate Guide to a Happy Birthday:

    Leave the year before, behind- and take the lessons you’ve learned from it with you. It is important to close each chapter of your life and make room for a new one. Create a “what I’ve learned this year list” to help you recap and move forward.

    Stop longing to be younger. It just can’t happen. Use that energy to engage in things that make you feel more alive and in great health. Think less about your age and more about your quality of life.

    Start something new. Newness inspires growth, evolution, and gives you something to look forward to.  Start a new workout regimen. Learn a new talent. Join a new book club.

    Change something about your appearance. Let what is going on internally be reflected in your external appearance.  It doesn’t need to be drastic. It can be a few new wardrobe pieces, a new hair color, or a good trim. Do something that makes you feel confident as you move into the next year of your life.

    Surround yourself with the people you love.  This is a given.  You need great people- who totally get you in your tribe. Spending another year with them is an added bonus. Make plans for lunch dates, nights out on the town, and even time to unwind with them throughout the year to come.

    Have a meaningful celebration. Spend your birthday celebrating in a way that makes you feel appreciated, grateful, and fired up. Go dancing. Host a dinner party (with you as the guest of honor.)  Go away for the weekend. Take a day-trip. Do whatever you love doing in celebration of another year of life.

    Don’t make your birthday about what you’ve done. Make it about how you feel. You can do great things at any age. But, how you feel when you do it, is where the magic really is. Focus on what makes you feel good, what makes you come alive, and what gets you fired up. Create a declaration for your new year of life that is inspired by how you want to feel.

     

    Above all... lighten up + have the ultimate happy birthday.


     

    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."