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    Sunday
    Apr162017

    Don't Settle Interview Series With Melanie Marie

    I set a goal, about a year ago, to only surround myself with women who are doing what I do or doing what I want to do. This was a strategic move on my part to position myself to step my entire life up. 
    There is one area, in particular, I wanted to work on and that is my momprenuership. That is a phrase coined by moms who are killing it in business and in their families.  I used to feel bad about my desire to be both an intentional mother and focused business woman. I thought I needed to choose.  I thought I would miss out on real success if I focused on my family. I thought I would miss out on building a meaningful family if I focused on business. I was wrong.  You don't have to choose either, or... you can have both.
    I met Melanie Marie not too long ago. She's one of those women who are killing it in both motherhood and business; and she teaches other women to do the same. Melanie has two awesome custom jewlery lines.  She creates beautiful pieces for mamas and their babies.
    I asked Melanie to chat with me about her life and how she chose not to settle, and she said yes.
    Nakeia: Hey Melanie! I was so excited to introduce you, but who do you say that you are?

    Melanie: My name is Melanie, owner of Melanie Marie Accessories & AnnDrew Marie Accessories. I recently created a mommy and me lifestyle blog. I am a Mompreneur that is dedicated to help women take the leap into entrepreneurship. My company began as an accessory company in 2009, but has since branched out into philanthropy, youth empowerment and entrepreneurship advising. I also launched a mentorship program called MM Gems & Jewels.  It is an exciting platform for under privileged young girls to discover their passions, set goals and apply what they are learning in school to their daily lives. In a nutshell, I am a woman that cares about helping other women achieve their dreams! 

    Nakeia: Whew! What an amazing woman you are! When I first started following you and saw all of the things you have your hands on, I knew I had to stay connected. Now tell me,  who were you before knowing all of that?

    Melanie: Before I was all of that, I was a nurse. I went to school for nursing, got my bachelors degree and got a job. I always had an entrepreneurial spirit and I couldn't let it die, so I went after my dreams to become that person above.
    Nakeia: You see what I mean, hands on everything! Was there a moment in your life when you made a conscious decision NOT to settle?

    Melanie: Of course! I grew up in a family that care deeply about education. My mother and grandmother always said, go to college, get good grades, graduate and get a good job with benefits. I did that but was not happy working for someone else. I got tired of not living out my dreams. I put a plan in motion to become an entrepreneur and then when I felt everything was where I needed it to be, I quit! 
    Nakeia: Just like that. huh? You walked away from your 9-5 to work for yourself. Love it! No fear... Where would you be had you NOT made that decision?

    Melanie: Well I didn't quit just like that... But had I not quit, I would still be working for someone else. I would still be unhappy and just imagining how my life would be had I went after my dreams.  
    Nakeia: I hear you, girl... So here's my favorite question for you. What advice would you give to someone who is tired of settling or on the verge of settling?

    Melanie: When you settle, you are keeping yourself in a stagnant space and you are not allowing your mind to live freely. You will always be thinking about the "what ifs" and you will never truly be happy. Sometimes, people feel they have no other option but to settle. There is always another option. I would tell the person tired of settling, to just stop! Write down what you want. Read it every morning and every night. Imagine yourself living the life you want. Manifest your destiny. Go after what you want and never give up. Have the confidence to believe in yourself and don't let anyone deter you from your end goal. You will be proud that you did. 
    Nakeia: You will absolutely be proud that you did.  Thank you so much! That is solid advice. Write down what you want and read it every night... and go after it.  

     

    You can find out more about Melanie at melaniemarie.com. Follow her on instagram here. Shop Melanie Marie Custom Jewelry here
    Tuesday
    Mar282017

    Lost. Hurt. Missed... But Still Okay.

     

    If you never hear I love you from the one you loved the most, I hope you keep on loving.

    If you never hear I’m sorry from the one who hurt you worst, I hope you forgive them anyway so that the pain will ease.

    If you never get another chance to right what you did wrong, I hope you give yourself chance and keep on keeping on.

    If your days seem long, and nights look dark, I hope you wake up the next day and smile just because you can.

    Love will be lost.

    You’ll get hurt.

    You’ll miss your chance.

    …but I hope you know you’ll be okay.

     

     

     

    Until next time, Love...

     

    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."

    Tuesday
    Mar142017

    Don't Settle Interview Series With Destiney LaVonia

    The internet can be a crazy place.

    You can get catfished or you can meet the love of your life.

    You can troll social media accounts for gossip or catch up with old friends from 3rd grade.

    You can buy the latest trendy pair of jeans or you can sale you very own line of trendy products.

    You can read about the latest celebrity blogs or you can create positive blog of your own where women can be inspired.

    I have experienced some craziness on the interweb (like that time some woman from somehwere accused me of stealing her song.)  But, most of my expeirences have been great...

    Like that time I met Destiney LaVonia of momcrushmonday.com.  Destiney and I met on Instagram.  Her hustle, her motherhood, and her message inspires me as well as the almost 75 thousand followers she connects with everyday.  We connected and few years back and have sinced developed a pretty awesome business relationship and friendship. 

    Destiney was an early supportor of my Don't Settle Movement; which makes since becuase she has made a decision not to settle many times in her own life. She is a mother, influencer, blogger, and mentor.  She is totally legit. So, I just had to have her join me in my Don't Settle Interview Series.

    Nakeia: I was excited to introduce you, but do you say that you are?

    Destiney: Thank you so much for taking the time to chat with me! I'm Destiney, just a woman who is finding her way through life. I just happen to do so a little more publicly thanks to social media. I'm a mother, an entrepreneur, a blogger, and my daughter, Honor's biggest fan!

    Nakeia: You are all of that. lol Now tell me who you were before knowing all of that?

    Destiney: Before I had Honor, I still loved who I was and who I was working on becoming.  Motherhood just really helped me find myself in a way I didn't see coming. It's been a driving force in me that I'm so grateful for, you know... The last four years have changed me and molded me in some incredible ways.

    Nakeia: I hear you. I always say: the day I found out I was going to become a mother changed the game for me. It was a defining moment, for sure. Was there a moment in your life when you made a conscious decision NOT to settle?

    Destiney:Yes! For sure! Right before I became pregnant with my daughter, I was in a really deep depression. I made a conscious decision, when I found out that I was pregnant, to no longer settle in my life or for THAT kind of life. I wasn't going to bring her into the world while I was down and out. I don't think that everyone can pull themselves out alone, and I don't trivialize the significance of depression. But, for me personally, I was able to use my pregnancy to propel myself mentally into a better place, and ever since then I will not settle in any area or aspect of my life.

    Nakeia: Wow. I totally relate. I am sure many other mothers, or just women in general can relate to that. Most have been down and out at some point in life. And you are right. It's difficult to find your way out on your own.  Where would you be had you NOT made that decision?

    Destiney: I honestly don't know where I would be today, had I not fought so hard to beat my depression and change my life. I think people, especially depressed people, don't have the motivation to make changes. If it hadn't been for Honor, I don't know what would have been strong enough to pull me out of it. It really breaks my heart to even think about it, but it's an important part of who I am today. 

    Nakeia:Wow again. As someone who has struggled with depression, and even diagnosed with anxiety, I appreciate this conversation so much. How has making that decision changed your life?

    Destiney: It's night and day. Depression is a double edged sword and it effects all aspects of your life. My life after beating depression, and being able to say I'll no longer make choices that led me down that path, is so empowering. It's like coming up for air.

    Nakeia: Yes! What advice would you give to someone who is tired of settling or on the verge of settling?

    Destiney: Stop before you make any more decisions and look at your life going both ways. If you settle, or if you don't. Will your long term actually be better or only your short term? Don't let the allure of short term happiness overhaul the importance of what you can do with your future if you allow yourself not to settle. You can beat depression too. Becoming Honor's mother is what helped pull me out. Find something in your life that is important enough for you to hold on to, and let it hep pull you out.   There is life after depression. Come up for some air, girl!   

    Nakeia: Thank you so much, Destiney. I always enjoy my chats with you.

     

    You can catch up with Destiney LaVonia of momcrushmonday.com here. Be sure to subscribed to her blog. She has some exciting things coming up for moms, bloggers, and creative entreprenuers. Follower her on Instagram here.