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    song creator, inspirational writer/speaker, good food cooker, lipstick wearer… a girl from the projects who decided NOT to settle. I'm a believer- in God, in dreams, in love, and in hustle with heart. find out more about me here.















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    In Review: Play With Fire By Bianca Olthoff

    The internet is a wonderful place.
    You get to peep into the lives of people you admire on Instagram.
    You get to catch up with friends from high school on Facebook.
    You get to experience the everyday lives of the young and busy on Snapchat...
    And (my favorite) read the philosophy, tips, tricks, and tools of some really cool teachers, writers, and story-tellers on blogs.
    I found one of my favorite blogs about 6 or 7 years ago.
    Actually, a friend of mine introduced me to it and I've been following Bianca Olthoff ever since.
    She writes of faith, love, purpose, womanhood, Jesus, Beyonce (yes, Beyonce) and pretty much everything that matters to someone who is in pursuit of a meaningful life.
    So, when the opportunity to read an advance copy of her book Play With Fire came along, I snagged my copy.
    I read the entire book in just 2 sittings. I could have read it in one, but motherhood...
    After following Bianca for so long, I thought I knew what to expect.
    She is a teacher who grew up an preacher's kid, so I expected a sermon of some kind from her. But, I didn't expect it to come in the form of a conversation about growing up poor, living with your parents as an adult, battling weight issues, mending a broken heart, and watching a parent battle cancer.

    That is exactly what you get from Play With Fire.
    ~A conversation that is sermonic on-the-low
    Bianca told the story of growing up physically and in her faith in a way that made me feel like I scrolling through her Instagram feed, catching up on her Facebook status, experiencing her Snapchats (which are hilarious by the way,) and sitting on the church pew with my hands raised, yelling preach Bianca!-  all at the same time.
    Her debut as an author did not disappoint. Bianca has been a friend-in-my-head for some time and it is so clear why. Just like me, she is a (lighter) brown girl who grew up poor but understands that being rich experience- good and especially bad is often more valuable than money. 
    In her book, Bianca details some of the seemingly bad experiences that have inspired deeper faith. She encourages us not to avoid the fire but to allow it to purify us; and to rest assure that God's invisible hand is always there when it seems too hot for us to manage. 
    The entire book is rich in philosophy, tips, tools, and sound teaching (so be sure to get your copy) but here are 2 of my favorite takeaways:
    What survives in the fire will determine what is truly valuable.

    When you are at the end of yourself that's when God begins.

    Preach Bianca! 








    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."



    God Is My Life Coach

    The pursuit of the good life is a spiritual journey.

    Yes, money is a part of it.
    You should have a booming business and career, for sure.
    Yes, doing more of what you love is at the heart of what’s good about your life.
    You should be totally in love with what you do.

    But, there is nothing more spiritual than finding out who you are and why you’re here. The discovery of those two things is what the good life is really made of.

    So we search… through books, blogs, conferences and courses we seek the meaning of life.

    Who am I? Why am I here? What was I born to do? Ever find yourself asking those questions? I’m pretty sure you have. And those of us who can’t afford to find ourselves while backpacking in Europe, or discover real purpose while on a year-long missions trip, we need a little help figuring it all out.

    Life coaching, business mentorship and even therapy are awesome resources. I am, in fact, the last person to frown on any of that, really. I have a degree in Psychology and I’ve served as a mentor for more than 10 years. The thing is: we often forget to check in with the greatest resource we have—God.

    The beautiful people over at Grit & Virtue shared my advice for allowing God to be the ultimate resource for pursing the good life.
    Read 3 Ways To Walk With God As Your Life Coach, here.



    That Time I Quit My Job

    I quit my job 14 years ago to become a full-time songwriter.​

    Just a year after graduating from college, 1 year after landing a good paying state job, and a week before my wedding day, I turned in my resignation and leaped (head first) into the world of full-time creative entrepreneurship. 

    I want you to imagine, if you will, the countless wide-eyed conversations I had with family members, friends, ex-coworkers, and myself.  Everyone thought I was totally crazy; and to some extent I was. But I quit. I followed my instincts, listened to my heart, packed up my career in social work and quit my job.

    Did I mention how crazy this seemed? 
    Okay, so did I mention how crazy I felt?
    Well, It did.
    I felt crazy and amazing all at the same time.

    Quitting a job to pursue full-time entrepreneurship is what people who have a crazy passion for serving, creating, making, cultivating, and building, do.
    We make things happen. 

    If I could travel back in time, back 14 years ago, I would give myself a list of 10 questions to ask before turning in that letter of resignation. Since time-travel isn't a thing,  I shared my questions over at The Social Society for someone who may be just like me... and ready to make things happen.

    You can read the reast of my story and get my 10 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Quitting  at




    Until next time, Love...


    "Pursue something you freaking love!

    And the process that it will take you to get it, will be worth it."